About
I’m a lifelong student, teacher, facilitator, and transformational guide, and I’m endlessly fascinated by what becomes possible when we stop trying to get it right and start getting more real.
For me, transformation isn’t about trying to become someone new, but becoming more fully yourself.
Like many of us, I wasn't raised with much understanding of relational or emotional intelligence.
I learned early to pay attention to what others needed, to look outside of myself for approval, and to avoid creating discomfort. On the outside, it seemed like I had it together, but if you really knew me you would know that I was often abandoning myself in order to feel safe, accepted, and connected.
Learning to notice those patterns in myself has been a deep and revealing practice.
Before I taught any of this, I had to live it.
I've spent years learning to stay present with what happens inside me, especially when things get uncomfortable. I've had to learn how to feel what I'm feeling, listen to my body, speak what is true, stay in relationship through difference, and repair when I've gotten it wrong.
I don't always get it right.
But I've come to trust the practice.
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What I've learned along the way
For the past eight years, I've served as Senior Course Leader and Head of Curriculum and Facilitation Training for ART International, where I've trained hundreds of people in Authentic Relating and Relational Leadership and Facilitation.
Before that, and alongside it, I've apprenticed with teachers and practices across somatics, psychology, leadership development, and worldwide wisdom traditions.Â
In addition, I've raised a kid. Willow (now 22) has been my greatest teacher and practice partner.
Motherhood taught me the art of showing up, over and over again.Â
We will miss each other, misunderstand, get triggered, disappoint and hurt one another.
And then we have the opportunity to circle back.
To listen.
To take responsibility.
To repair.
To deepen.
Through it all I have developed a profound appreciation for something I see again and again:
These capacities can be learned, and they serve every area of our lives. Â
This is the heart of my work.
We practice...
- Becoming more aware of our patterns and the wounds that live under them.
- Developing greater capacity to stay present when things get uncomfortable.
- Learning to navigate difference while staying in connection.
- Getting more skillful at honesty, listening, boundaries and repair.
- Connecting to what truly matters.Â
And what I've discovered is that as we cultivate these capacities in ourselves, they ripple out into our relationships, our work, our families, our communities, and the cultures we create together.
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That is what R.E.A.L. is all about.Â
Relational. Embodied. Authentic. Leadership.
Dayna navigates complex interactions with seemingly-masterful grace, patience, and ease. Working with Dayna has been a literal life-changing experience for me.
- Evan Joblin
Dayna holds space with such potent presence, care, and embodiment that transformation becomes not only possible—but inevitable.
-Â Rachel Weir
Dayna holds exquisite space based on years of facilitating groups. I didn’t know how much I needed Dayna's guidance until I experienced it - a true gift for me.
- Karam Kapur
Ways we can work together:
R.E.A.L. Coaching
Relational Skills Workshops
Leadership Trainings
Speaking & Presenting
Facilitator Development
Organizational ConsultingÂ
Start with a conversation
If you’re curious about working together, send a note and I’ll help you find the right next step.
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Human better.
Together.
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